“In its purest form, dating is auditioning for mating (and auditioning means we may or may not get the part).”
-Joy Browne, Dating for Dummies
I’m probably THE last person that should be writing about dating, cuz it’s been a hot minute, but I’m just gonna share my thoughts. I feel like back in the day it was a much more detailed process and everyone knew what was going on. First, you meet, exchange names, flirt a little bit. Very light conversation. Basically this is the time where interest is expressed. Then, you date. This is the getting to know you period, where you go out to dinner or a carnival or something and learn each others likes, dis-likes, and intentions for moving forward. Then, you court, which means you’re exclusively committed to each other, boyfriend-girlfriend sorta thing. Then, you get engaged, get married, and have kids. Right? Well, now I feel like dating has been replaced with “talking”. Like “oh yea I talk to him.” – meaning we are going out and getting to know each other. Then it turns into a “situationship” and that’s basically as far as it goes.
“Situationship (n.)- A relationship that has no label on it.. like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.” – Urban Dictionary
WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN?!?! Nothing. It means absolutely nothing. lol Based on observation here are 4 major signs that you may be in a situationship.
- No title– By definition there is no definition lol so basically “it is, what it is” whatever that means. It’s like “we talk, but we not really together, but we basically do everything together”
- No social media love– There’s no MCM or WCW because situationships AREN’T exclusive. Its basically an open relationship. So you gets no shout outs. No tags. You may show up on the snapchat story every once in a while……at a group outing……on accident….
- Late nights– Basically through out the day there’s limited- to no communication cuz both people are busy living their lives (separately). Nothing wrong with that. Work hard. Play hard. But the play is usually just linking up for “Netflix and chill.” If you can even manage to get that time slot….But there are no pop-up visits. No random mid-day outtings. No dates. Just late night “chill” sessions.
- Holidays– nah fam it’s a wrap for that. You get time AFTER the family and friends…maybe….if there’s time.
So where does that leave the hopeless romantics who are “old school” and like the process of dating and want it to ACTUALLY lead to something more in the future? Leaves us writing blogs lmao jk. Good luck to you all in your dating endeavors this year. May the odds be forever in your favor and Happy Valentines Day!